ASK DONI! Hear the podcast:
"I belong to the community pool. There’s a family of more than 12 that keep coming to the pool and treating it like THEIR PRIVATE POOL rather than the community pool. They take over a bunch of tables and their kids are out of control. I just want to swim my laps and relax, but I can’t with this 'family reunion' going on every time I’m at the pool.
Doni… what should I do?"
1) SUCK IT UP. It is a community pool. I know it stinks, but it is a community pool… it’s not your private pool either.
2) MEET THE NEIGHBORS. Talk to the family. Introduce yourself. If they get to know you and you get to know them, maybe this will work itself out: you’ll have more tolerance for the antics and they’ll be more considerate.
3) HEAD ON! I believe in direct communication. If the kids are jumping in your lane while you’re doing laps, remind them that their behavior is “against the rules” or let the life guards know about the issue. They should be policing the kids getting in the lanes while people are trying to swim laps.
A) Settle yourself. There are, no offense, worst problems to have. You can afford the community pool! CONGRATS! A lot of people would love to have your problems.
B) It takes “a village to raise a child.” If the kids’ behavior is truly unruly, don’t feel bad politely reminding the youngsters of the rules. If that doesn’t work, take it up a notch. “You know the rules right? Cause if you need a reminder, I can go ask your parents to give you one.” Chances are your neighbors don’t know that you feel they are being discourteous.